Friday, June 11, 2010

What NOT to say

"You just need to relax!"
OMG! If I hear this one more time, I'm going to SCREAM!!! And quite possibly pull out all the hairs in your head...this is just a warning. When you say this, you make it seem like it's MY fault we aren't pregnant. If you care to read more, read this post here.

"Don't think about it."
Umm...I track every day of my cycle, I can tell you when I started my period for the eight months and how long each cycle was, you really think I can just flip the switch and not think about it?

"Take a vacation."
Sorry saving up for infertility procedures...vacay sounds great but I can't afford it.

"Do you know whose fault it is?"
Yes, I do but I'm not about to share that with you.

"Have you thought about adoption?"
See upcoming post.

"Pray about it."
I have and did you know that every night, I pray for every single infertile woman out there...those that I know personally by name and I always list myself last, if at all. I've prayed and prayed and prayed...

Don't ask me every month, "So..."
Trust me, you'll notice the month I don't have giant bags under my eyes from crying over Flo or instead of being mega-bitch, I'm actually pleasant the entire month so...yeah, you'll know, you don't have to ask.

"I bet it'll happen this month."
Really? I've been telling myself that every month but now that YOU'VE said it then it must really going to happen now.

"I'm sorry...Hang in there."
I'm sorry too but you feeling sorry for me just makes me feel worst.

In all honesty, I appreciate your support and that you care enough to ask. I appreciate that you aren't afraid to broach the forbidden topic of infertility. So thanks for being my friend and loving me despite all my bitchy days of the month and random cryings and ramblings and feel free to tell me to put a sock in it when I start acting like the pregnancy know-it-all to you, deal?


Jessica White said...

Those things are some of the hardest and most painful things. We had the adoption one from my parents pastor, they have 2 bio kids (13 and 15) that they had with no problem, then decided to adopt a couple of years ago. Wanted to smack them, and I have pretty much ignored them since.

Wishing 4 One said...

I know those commments suck it bad. You should visit this site as it has these and so many more... adds some levity to such a horrible hard situation we all find ourselves in. Just hang in there... it'll happen kidding. xoxox