After my post about what NOT to say, I'm sure you're thinking, okay...well, what should I say? The truth is, I have no idea. Asking questions is good...for me at least, it helps to explain to you what I know because then I hear it out loud and sometimes it causes you to ask questions that I DON'T know but should so I add that to my list to ask the doctor.
Just a nod and listening is great too. If I've trusted you enough to tell you then you're one of the few and I might just want to bitch and vent about the whole situation, the doctors, DH and I might just want to cry because there's not a damn thing that anyone can do about this. So just an ear to listen and maybe a shoulder to cry on is nice too.
A friendly call or email just to let me know that you're thinking about me is nice too, it might even make me cry. Funny how I'm the complete OPPOSITE of pregnant but I feel like I have the same crazy hormones and ability to cry at the drop of a hat as a pregnant woman does.
Other than that, I don't really know what you CAN say. Just be my friend, don't treat me differently...love me for who I am, fertile or not!
Benton and Emery's first birthday party!
8 years ago
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Yeah, I find that difficult as well... there isn't much to be said that helps. Listening is good. And not belittling our problems, even if you think "this isn't long" or whatever.
I love you no matter what!
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