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Saturday, March 12, 2011

Conversation II

Seriously, I'm sitting here in my living room CRYING the day before my birthday because some people just don't get it. Back story: My parents are divorced. They don't really talk. They don't get along. It's been over 15 years.

A few minutes ago, my mom calls me to tell me she ran into my dad at the grocery store and she thinks she said something she wasn't supposed to. Great...Somehow they got started talking about me and the "baby situation." One of them said, "What do you think about A?" and the other said, "I wish she'd have a baby." This was said really for me, not because of grandparent status.

Dad: I wish she'd just calm down and something would happen.
Mom: Well, um...based off the percentages they've told me, I don't think they'll be able to naturally have a baby.
Dad looks at her like she doesn't know what she's talking about.
Mom: Well, hopefully something will happen this summer.
Dad: Summer?
Mom: Yes, that's when they're trying again.

So now my mother told my dad something that's not true and he's probably upset with me. I have told BOTH of them as well as everyone else, that we'll be trying something in the fall...not summer.

It also frustrates me that my dad thinks I should just "stay calm and something would happen." I don't know how many ways to get through to him and my in-laws that I WILL NOT BE GETTING PREGNANT NATURALLY IN THIS LIFETIME!!! Let go of the hope, stop telling me to stay calm and pray about it-IT'S NOT GOING TO HAPPEN, not that way!

Now I have a headache and tears streaming down my face, I can't get ahold of DH, I called and vented to my sister who was in the middle of Old Navy so she couldn't do much and the dogs are driving me bananas barking outside. Proof again that one phone call can change your mood.

10 comments:

Josey said...

:( I'm sorry this hit you so hard. People who haven't struggled with IF just don't get it... and some will work to try to and work to be compassionate (like your Mom), and some just will really never get it (like your Dad).

Don't let his ignorance make you feel bad. You KNOW that you are doing everything you can to be a Mom. It will happen for you hon - and we all know it won't be b/c you relaxed. :P

Hang in there. ((HUGS))

JC said...

Ohh I'm so so sorry!!! It's so frustrating, parents sometimes (or all of the time) don't get it either. I'm sorry =(. I hope it doesn't ruin tomorow. ((hugs))

Kelly said...

I'm so sorry :(
People just don't get it and it stinks....

I hope this doesn't ruin your day tomorrow and you can still enjoy your birthday!

SLESE1014 said...

I'm sending you hugs.....That's a crappy way to have things fall out.....I hope you can find a way to communicate with them...It sucks when they just don't get it...my mom tells me on a weekly basis to relax and let it happen in God's time....sometimes I just want to slap her....But they don't get it...

Sending hugs to you....

Bridget said...

I'm so sorry sweetie. It is so hard when people so close to you just don't get it. It makes me sad that you dad thinks relaxing will make it happen. Keep your chin up and know that you are doing what you need to do.

Shawna said...

I am so sorry. Some people just dont get it. My parents are divorced too and dont get along at all. Wish I could give you a big hug!!

Stephany said...

I'm so sorry, girl. :(

Not the play the devil's advocate here, but it's really hard for people who haven't been through or understand IF to know the right things to say. They truly believe you just need to calm down and you will *magically* get pregnant. It's not right, but somehow this is what society has made those not going through IF believe. I've been around a LOT of IF ladies, and these used to be the only types of blogs I would read so I guess I have a better understanding, somewhat. Not to say I know at all what you're going through.

Anyway, you can always vent to me in an e-mail if need be! I'm always here for a listening ear. :)

~Jess said...

How frustrating! It's so hard to deal with all this...people want the truth, but they don't want to. Catch 22.

Cherbear said...

****Hugs****

Joanna said...

I'm so sorry! I will say that stress doesn't help but when you know your issue goes beyond "natural means" the phrase "calm down & it will just happen" is very frustrating. No one understands it unless you had to work at having a baby. I'm here if you ever need to vent. You can just send me e-mails (as long as you want them to be!). I wish I could just hop on a plane & give you a big HUG!!!