Friday, July 9, 2010

Reason, Season or Lifetime

Well, we all know that God has a plan for us...the fertiles out there want to tell us that all the time, right? Well, I may be a believer...for the time being.

I have a friend who I met in high school and we worked together. After college, we both kind of went our ways and fell out of touch. When I moved back into the area, we met up a couple of times but that was it. Then this past December, we met up for lunch and both realized that we were possibly entering the world of IF.

After that, we emailed our frustrations to each other, helped each other translate our doctor's words, exchanged IF books, met for dinners and lunches to say hey and find out how our journeys were was honestly a great relief to have someone going through the same (yet totally different) thing.

This past week, my friend lost her one-of-a-kind brother in what can only be described as a tragedy. My heart is just aching for her and her family and I'm trying to do everything possible to help them out. On the day that I found out, I told DH, "Maybe God is having both of us go through IF because it brought us back together. Maybe God wanted me to be here to help her through this time. Maybe that's why we're going through this..." Maybe this is the answer to all my whys that I've been asking over the past few months...

This reminds me of a poem (and forward that I used to get all the time) that has stuck with me and I honestly find to be very true...

People come into your life
for a reason, a season or a lifetime.

When you figure out which one it is,
you will know what to do for each person.

When someone is in your life for a REASON. . .
It is usually to meet a need you have expressed.
They have come to assist you through a difficulty,
to provide you with guidance and support,
to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually.
They may seem like a godsend, and they are!
They are there for the reason you need them to be.
Then, without any wrongdoing on your part,
or at an inconvenient time, this person will say
or do something to bring the relationship to an end.
Sometimes they die.

Sometimes they walk away.
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.
What we must realize is that our need has been met,
our desire fulfilled, their work is done.
The prayer you sent up has been answered.
And now it is time to move on.

Then people come into your life for a SEASON....
Because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn.
They bring you an experience of peace, or make you laugh.
They may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.
Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons
: things you must build upon in order to have
a solid emotional foundation.
Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person,
and put what you have learned to use in all
other relationships and areas of your life.
It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.

Unknown Author

So please, I don't ask for this often, but please send any prayers, if you're the praying type, and positive thoughts for my friend and her family. Thanks...


Conceptionally Challenged said...

Thanks for sharing the poem.
I'll be thinking of your friend. It must be horrible to lose a sibling.

JC said...

I'm sorry for your friend's loss, I'll say a prayer. I'm glad you can be there for her. Thanks for sharing the poem.

Sarah said...

Way to stay positive about a crummy situation. You are a good friend.